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I suggest two things.
First for playing with the band a Lug Lock Tempo Ref. This attaches to the snare drum and has a decent size LED readout. It reads the tempo that the drummer is playing, so is in fact like a speedometer. It's just a matter of finding the correct tempo for the song and the drummer sticking with it.

I have used one of these for many years, it sorts any arguments about song tempo with the band members and over time you get used to tempos and find you don't look at it so much and it just becomes just a check. From using it every gig and at practices my timing has improved considerably with no loss of feel. The bands timing has as well, especially the rushing lead guitarist, aware that i'm not going to go along with him, but keep strictly as close to the right tempo as possible. Some drummers can tend to do that, speed up with another band member, and then get blamed for bad time and speeding up.


Secondly get a Korg Beatlab metronome for drummers personal practice. It's dead easy to use, has the rudiments inbuilt, a decent click, adjustable for strong/weak pulses, led lights etc.

Drumbum has a valid point, some people have no rhythm which is an important asset for a drummer. Despair not, i am living proof it can be learned, it just takes some dedication over a lot of time to find that inner groove.
Firstly one has to realise the fact that they have no rhythm and accept it, some won't listen unfortunately (not just drummers either).