well I guess the first thing is get good
then once you get good in one area of playing get good in other areas as well.
you wont always find that one band that is playing the type of music that you want to play but if you play with one band and you are good word will get around.
the other thing is to keep looking for a band on web sites and news papers and you local music stores (they useally have a bulitan board with bands looking for musicans)
but keep practicing as much as you can and work on a little bit of everything.
the band you are looking for is out there but it just takes some time to find the right one.
Ive played in a lot of bands but this will be the first one that I got to play with that might go big.