Hi VMDrummer,
I think the ideal choice for you would be the Aquarian Focus X, this is a textured coated skin of which you also have the choice of a power dot (for heavy play) .
I use the plain version without the power dot, it is very snappy and the vented clear muffling ring underneath the head takes care of any excessive ring.
When you want to hear a bit of ring you can still get it by hitting close to the hoop.
My personal opinion is that this type of head is one of the best heads money can buy!!
Cheers and happy drumming,
Harry