Hi there
I'm a beginner so not much flamboyancy happening (YET).
In terms of what I hope to be, and what I like listening to, I think both the styles you talk about have their place, and I feel it's important to be able to do both. I love tricky playing, little frilly fills, and kicks, and cymbal work but then I also love a big fat straight chunky groove. Whatever the song requires, I think. I don't think one has to subscribe strictly to one style or the other. How about... in between? Not too over the top but not too 'anal'.
