For a cheep way...Buy big mouse pads, cut in circles, the size of the drums you want want dampened( i got a free 8" bad thing...my smallest is a 10), snair use a magazine,
sabian works fine. cymbal mutes... Buy from store.
sabian and
zildjian might both make them(sabian at least).
ARE YOUR HI HATS RELLY THE VOLUME OF A CANNON? I recoment stick with crash ride china, splash... need i say more.