dudes, there's nothing wrong with cutting loose behind the kit. That's what she's there for, you know? Stress relief is a big factor in the medical drumming world, decreasing chance of heart
attacks and (as I'm sure you've all experienced) relieving the pressures of the day. Besides, I too played timidly for quite some time, but as long as you stay within your comfortable limits, then I feel it's a much better idea to stay relaxed and cocky. It works to get rid of the anxiousness and keeps your mind clear. Getting all tense makes me lack a lot of creativity and brain work. Peace.