Hey no problem at all. It's nice to be able to help out. The cool part is, by coming to this forum you get the benefit of decades of experience from the people here--- hopefully it will pay off and you can avoid some of the crap we've endured without such a resource...
OK on to in-ear stuff. I personally have had experience with a few different brands of in-ear isolating earphones, and the ones I like best are the Shure
brand. There were two different models, one had a bass port and had great sounding bottom end so I lean that way--but of course they are expensive:
The lower end ones don't have the bass port but still have good overall sound--- look at the price on these closely if you choose white they're $59.. if you get black or grey they're $149--just for color?? Lame. Get the white ones-- either way you can still see them so it's not like color benefits you:
SCL3 Sound Isolating Earphones | In-Ear Professional Headphones | Musician's Friend
OK now you need a mixer. I don;t know how many pieces you have in yor kit, so I'll assume you need at least 7 mics, which means you'll probably need between 8 and 12 channels so you can bring your outside source of music etc into the mix and even use it for other instruments later on (if you're buying a mixer, might as well have some room to add your jam buddies so you can record etc.)
Have heard great stuff about this one-- looking at getting one myself for my stage mix:
Buy Behringer XENYX 1202 | Unpowered Mixers | Musician's Friend
Next you need some mics. You can get crazy expensive or go the cheap route. I'd suggest cheaper until you find out what you want out of your sound. The CAD mics are decent and you can't beat the price for a 7-mic kit with drum mounts for 4 of them:
Buy CAD PRO-7 7-Piece Drum Microphone Pack | Percussion Microphones | Musician's Friend
After that you may need a couple of stands etc and some mic cables/assorted cables for your hookups.
Overall I think that's a good start on mic'ing and your drums and getting a sound mix to play along with that is expandable to maybe run a PA or record with etc. in the future.... Good luck