I think i can really help u out dude.
My first kit would be perfect for some one his age.
It's a sound percussion 4-piece drum set that really was ment for ur purpose.
It's on sale for $200 (originaly $250) and it includes..
2. Bass drum
3. 1 high tom
4. 1 floor tom
5. Hi-hat stand (includes pedal) with hi-hat cymbals
6. 1 crash cymbal with cymbal stand (single braced though
7. snare drum with snare stand (snare stand is single braced)
8. single foot pedal (chain drive)
9. The drum shells
10. The drum heads
I hope this helped. I'll give you a link to the set. Buy Sound Percussion SP 4-Piece Drum Set | Complete Drum Sets | Starter Drum Sets | Musician's Friend
I think this set is perfect for him. And he can add on to it when he's ready to put more time into his drumming. He's starting at the perfect age. Good luck!
Oh yeah, i've been self tought for 4 years now and i've seen a lot of improvment.